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Do you find it difficult to ‘roll with the punches’ when stressful situations arise? Are you unable to manage life crises when they happen? It is all a matter of emotional resilience.

Emotional resilience refers to a person’s ability to adapt and sail through stressful times easily. Resilient individuals undergo the same problems other people experience, but they are able to persist and triumph over difficult situations rather than giving up. Emotionally resilient people are capable of navigating through difficult life situations with greater ease and are able to bounce back after major setbacks.

While some people may seem naturally capable of handling their problems without buckling under stress, emotional resilience can be learned. When developed, this trait can help you get through tough times feeling overwhelmed or being too hard on yourself.

Think of it also as a savings account. You build on the skills during less stressful times (making a deposit), and then use your coping skills during stressful incidents (withdrawal).


You can learn how to be resilient

Developing emotional resilience involves effort on your part, but it can turn out to be a good investment for your personal well-being. In the long run, you will be able to protect both your physical and psychological health, deal with stress more effectively, maintain emotional balance, establish boundaries between work and personal life and foster good relationships.

You can follow these simple practices to become more resilient to difficult situations.


  1. Change your perception

Sometimes, we tend to focus on life’s events without knowing that it’s how we see them that makes the most difference. Resilient people look at difficulties as challenges that they need to address with action instead of fear or self-pity. A crucial step in becoming more resilient is to be positive and constantly reminding yourself that these experiences can help you grow stronger and wiser as you go through life’s difficulties.


  1. Focus on things you can control

Learn to let go of things that are out of your control. We can’t control our circumstances, but we can control how we respond to them. This helps us become more solution-focused instead of problem-focused.


  1. Choose being compassionate above being right

Often, our desire to be right becomes an emotional burden. We engage in fights just to assert our opinions and win arguments. But being right at the risk of losing important relationships will not make you happy.


  1. Indulge in self-care

Self-care isn’t about being selfish. Self-care is the nourishment you need to strengthen your inner resolve. You have to practice good self-care habits and allow yourself the time to nurture your mind, body and spirit. You can have as many stress-busters as you want. This can be in the form of healthy diet, meditation, exercise, or even just a relaxing cup of tea.


  1. Maintain your sense of humour

Sometimes just laughing your problems off goes a long way. Laughter has numerous benefits, and one of them is helping increase your immunity against stress. Also, with a sense of humour, you can connect well with other people even during challenging times.


  1. Reach out to other people

Don’t isolate yourself from people around you. Resilient individuals seek the support of friends, family and social groups rather than keeping to themselves and absorbing all of their problems alone. People with a strong support system tend to be happier and cope well with stress.


  1. Remember that you’ll get through it

Resilient people understand that time heals all wounds. It may feel like it’s the end of the world for you but things will get better and you will recover. Don’t give up on your situation. Keep working on being more emotionally resilient and trust that you will make it.


While practicing these simple tips, don’t forget to be patient with yourself. Building emotional resilience is a slow process but you will find that it is worth all the time and effort.

If you’re having a hard time coping with difficult situations, I invite you to book a session with me and we can work on developing your emotional resilience. You may reach me through 0403 747 626 or fill in the contact form.

Fiona Stevenson Gold Coast



Fiona Stevenson counselling psychotherapist Gold Coast

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