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COUPLES COUNSELLING

Reconnect, Repair and Restore Relationships

How do you keep the momentum going when times are tough and that feeling of exhilaration of falling in love has ended?

Making the decision to attempt to repair a relationship takes an enormous amount of courage from both partners. Being honest, the thought of talking to a complete stranger about your relationship can be a little scary! But consider the alternatives – an unhappy marriage or a messy separation.

 

Couples counselling is a combination of exploring both the present day relationship problems, what has shaped your past and each person's family of origin.  Together we will explore and learn about the cycles of interactions such as the criticism/defense cycles that couples get caught up in.  You will learn skills that will help you identify when you and your partner are caught up in such cycles and shift the direction of your relationship.

I aim to create a balanced environment for each partner to feel safe, heard and respected.  Allowing for empathy and understanding to Reconnect, Repair and Restore their relationship.

How do you keep the momentum going when times are tough and that feeling of exhilaration of falling in love has ended?

Making the decision to attempt to repair a relationship takes an enormous amount of courage from both partners. Being honest, the thought of talking to a complete stranger about your relationship can be a little scary! But consider the alternatives – an unhappy marriage or a messy separation.

 

Couples counselling is a combination of exploring both the present day relationship problems, what has shaped your past and each person's family of origin.  Together we will explore and learn about the cycles of interactions such as the criticism/defense cycles that couples get caught up in.  You will learn skills that will help you identify when you and your partner are caught up in such cycles and shift the direction of your relationship.

I aim to create a balanced environment for each partner to feel safe, heard and respected.  Allowing for empathy and understanding to Reconnect, Repair and Restore their relationship.

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I can help you to re-establish that close connection you felt at the start of your relationship. Where you both will to begin to regain trust, empathy & intimacy.

I can help you to re-establish that close connection you felt at the start of your relationship. Where you both will to begin to regain trust, empathy & intimacy.

Relationship Myth Busting

It's just a piece of paper

Marriage provides tremendous psychological and physical benefits. Research shows in developed countries the greatest source of happiness is a satisfying and healthy marriage.

 

Conflict is a sign that you’re in a bad relationship

What if conflict isn't a bad thing? Conflict provides a opportunity to improve understanding. Conflict commonly occurs through missed attempts of communication, particularly when one person attempts to get emotionally closer to the other.

 

All conflicts can be resolved

No, did you know that 69% of relationship conflicts are recurring? The goal is to manage conflict, not resolved it through learning how to discuss these issues to prevent gridlock and resentment.

 

Talking about the past will only make it worse

The past is not able to be changed, however past emotional injuries can be processed and healed. Allowing you to change your recollection and retelling of it.

 

Love is enough

Over time complacency sets in, no date nights, not being romantic, having great sex or fun. The relationship grows into a endless to do list of errands and chores. Even more so after a baby has arrived. What breathes life into your relationships needs to be made a priority.

 

What couples fight about most is sex, money, and in-laws

Truth! Most couples fight about nothing. The usually the cause of these fights is failed attempts of emotional connection. Learn the importance of turning towards your partner instead of turning away.

 

Source: John Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

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I use the Gottman Method for couples counselling. This method is structured, goal oriented and scientifically based, with over 3,000 couples contributing to the development of this method over forty years.

This research has revealed what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship. Couples who have gone through this process were able to break through barriers, achieving a greater connection, understanding and intimacy in their relationship.

Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving

- Gary Chapman. Author, The Five Love Languages.